My boyfriend rarely initiates sex. How can I get him to be more spontaneous?

Guys may stifle their spontaneity if they've been turned down a few times, so break out the sexual jumper cables. Let him know you're game, but leave him in control of the when and the how. Try saying something like, "Hey-I'm going for a run. Help me clean up when I get back?" Then smack his ass. Or take him by surprise-being ambushed can sometimes give a guy the confidence to return the favor.


-Christina E., Baltimore, MD