Why do some guys rush the relationship?

Some men are as impulsive with women as they are with gas pedals-meaning they're unconcerned with the consequences. If he expedites the usual thresholds (like meeting his friends), he's just excited about you. But if he's jumping the gun on huge milestones (like dropping the L-bomb), casually tug on the leash. You can say, "I like where we're headed, but I want to take our time getting there." If he's still laying it on, reconsider your options. You might have a stage-three clinger.

-Carly A., Roseville, MN

My boyfriend rarely initiates sex. How can I get him to be more spontaneous?

Guys may stifle their spontaneity if they've been turned down a few times, so break out the sexual jumper cables. Let him know you're game, but leave him in control of the when and the how. Try saying something like, "Hey-I'm going for a run. Help me clean up when I get back?" Then smack his ass. Or take him by surprise-being ambushed can sometimes give a guy the confidence to return the favor.


-Christina E., Baltimore, MD

I went on a great date with a guy, and he told me he would call. But we've only exchanged a few texts. What's going on?

Lots of guys-and hey, girls too-use texting to keep someone close enough to hook up with, but not so close that they actually have to commit. But you can learn about a guy's intentions from his texts. First, check the time stamp (Friday night at 1 a.m. = booty call). Next, read into it. "Yo, what's up?" doesn't deserve a response, but "Do you like to snowboard?" could be a sign hes waiting for the right moment to call. Bottom line: if he lets more than two weekends go by without calling to plan a date, stop wasting time on his texts-and him.


-Megan L., San Diego, CA

I get bad headaches after hard workouts. What's going on?

The first time a pounder like this hits you, see your doctor. If she rules out serious conditions, then it's most likely an exertional headache, which may be your body's way of saying you overdid it, says J.D Bartleson, M.D., a neurologist at the Mayo Clinic. Roughly 1 percent of people suffer from this type of pain, which starts during or immediately after an intense physical effort and can last from five minutes to 48 hours. Scientist aren't sure why the headaches accur, but people who suffer from migraines appear to be more susceptible. Try modifying the intensity of your workout and warming up first--both will east the shock to your system. No luck? Pop a nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory such as ibuprofen post-workout.


-Chelsea L., Palmerton, PA